What are the patterns and why to attend them?

Patterns are thought patterns in this description. The brain operates on completely different waves in childhood than it does in adulthood. Particularly in early childhood, roughly 0-6 years of age, we are on wavelengths where we take in everything from our surroundings as a matter of course. We don't yet have the ability to subject a given "truth" or belief to inquiry and make up our own minds, sometimes if we are in a dangerous environment we will absorb even more special formulas just to survive. The brain is actually interesting in that when it detects that something is repeated regularly and often enough, it takes it for granted, stores it as a program, a pattern, and transfers it from the conscious part of the brain to the subconscious.

That's what happens, we have maybe dozens, hundreds of mini-programs, beliefs, truths that we take for granted because they were once written down in our childhood as program 1, 2,3, 4...25. And we operate from them, but since they are already written down in the subconscious, we don't ask if they are correct, valid, still functional for us. We function from them automatically. When our mother often told us that the dishes have to be washed in the afternoon, we take it for granted, when she told us that rich people are bad, they are all thieves anyway, we take it for granted. And there are such programs... It just happens then, for example, that we don't and don't make money, we have a money problem all the time, not realising at all that we can't even be rich, because all rich people are bad, and yet our ego wants to look and be good. We have the belief that the rich are the bad guys and the thieves...

It's interesting that we also attract partners from our role models, what was my father like (for women), how did he treat us, how did he show us love, how did we feel in his presence; what was my mother like (for men), is there any similarity?

Even if someone says to himself that I have a good partner, is he all my father? Is he actually my mother? Not entirely maybe, but is there a lot of similarities?

The good news is that patterns, beliefs that are limiting or dysfunctional for us can be changed, replaced with new ones, it just takes becoming aware of what our patterns actually are, what we are automatically reacting from. Once they're realised, it's no longer automatic, we already know that aha program 1, is that what I want to continue with?

How can we actually figure out what patterns we have? A psychologist can help us with that, or an NLP practitioner, a coach, but we can also figure it out ourselves, at least some of them. The important thing is to observe our thoughts, what we tell ourselves, what we say, what we are convinced of at any given moment, what we like and why, what we don't like and why, where do we get it from that this is good and that is not? It's not always entirely easy to latch on and discover what we're actually operating from, but with some practice we start to get better at it and catch and notice the pattern early on.

It's actually amazing that we can fix something that isn't working. We have the choice and the opportunity to change it, so we are able to take life into our own hands and not blame circumstances and the past and family, country, religion and be in the position of being a victim.

Have a wonderful day :-)

Mirka